I was bolding the parts that I strongly agreed with, but then it was pretty much the entire thing, so.
Yes, she was the "skinny ideal" at one point. But being upset that she isn't mysterious? Or "shattered" that she isn't as intelligent as one had hoped, or as gracious? That's unfair to her, and to you. Don't invest in someone's worth when you have absolutely no idea what type of person they truly are.
She played the game, and won a fantastic bank account. I find her annoying on social media, but whatever (on the things that show her to be a bit more "desperate"). If I had a painted pool inside my house, you bet your ass I would twirl around in it and show it off to everybody.